Rained out

My weekend did not go as planned. We had wanted to throw a party for Melody with family but it fell through. The rain prevented us from having the party and not many wanted to drive in the rain. I had called to see about moving the party indoors which was not a problem but we were left with only indoor options. Arcade and laser tag. No mini golf or rides. So bummed. So we decided to wait.

I found myself this weekend being concerned with the conversations that i had with my stepchildren. I was shocked at the things they were saying and found myself struggling to respond back to them. Even looking over at Karl i found him looking in shock to. Its obvious that the children are not happy with their living arrangements or the custody agreement. They are looking to use for some type of relief. What do you say when your being told about how unhappy they are? I think the most interesting part was when they said they wanted Adam to move out and Karl to move back in. When it was brought up about me the kids decided that I could be a second wife like Heather was...What!! Oh wait it gets better because the kids were saying that Heather is back to being their moms wife so i could be a third. One of the older ones stepped in to say that they were working on being back together and mom anticipates that being soon but hold on, "Liz are you gay?". They said I would have to be gay to be a wife of their moms.To them this was perfectly normal and ok. I was left with no words. We told the kids enough because it was not going to happen. We explained the best we could that everyone is where they want to be and are happy.

I think the messed up part out of all of this is that Melissa will not communicate or co-parent with Karl. So these issue's along with many others go unresolved. We are left trying to correct things on our end but it only goes so far when its not being dealt with on hers. On a side note I am looking into family counseling for us as a family. Especially more so with the girls and Karl. The girls have so much going on in their heads and when they are being told not to tell anyone, it makes it harder to deal. I'm hoping this will give the girls more power to be independent, responsible and carry themselves on a higher level. Give them more confidence in who they are and allow them to make choices without fear. They are such beautiful girls and deserve to blossom.